The Perks of Being a Wallflower
“The Perks of Being a Wallflower”
As much as some my trying and hide it I think we all want to be accepted or at the very least be noticed. I can think back as far as I can remember and I have always felt like i was on the outside looking in. I’ve traced this back to around the time I was five in a Montessori school. I never seemed to fit in, I was never part of the group. I don’t know why it was that way, I am still not sure what it is about me that leaves me on the outside. Maybe its in my mind, maybe I brought or bring it on myself.
Thinking back my mom always spoke about how had she had it as a kid. She was small for her age and was treated poorly. She always told my brother and I to dance to the beat of our own drum. Do what we feel is right, stand up for the people who are unable to stand up for themselves. I took that last statement to heart. I have never been afraid to stick up for the kid being picked on, to step in and protect them because someone needed to do it. I wasn’t afraid to be made fun of as I have always had a thick skin. I knew what it was like to be knocked down and sometimes you just need to step in and help, protect someone.
You never know how an action you may take could save someones life. Being someones voice or protector lets them know someone cares, that someone has their back. I know its hard to stand up for someone and speak out when an injustice is being done. We have all sat by afraid to help or step in when something was happening but the times you do decide to stand up it feels amazing. You are doing something that many don’t have the strength to do.
I think back to the times where I stepped in and acted as a protector. I always felt like I needed to go up to that kid who was always getting picked on and ask how they are. Talk to them when no one else would and be there to shield them from the bully. I wonder if they remember that and how it effected their life.
Back in summer camp I used to be in the soccer club. Each day the coach would pick two captains to pick teams. Normally you start by taking the best of the best, the kids who you know are going to help you win. Now being that I have always been an athlete I never knew what it was like to be picked last. I can only imagine the feeling day in and day out some people may feel when they are picked last. I decided today was the day where with my first pick I would take the kid who has never been picked first. Could you image what it must have felt like to hear his name first instead of last. The other captain kept to form and took the best kids as I continued to pick the team that most people would have hated to be one. If I can remember back I am sure the “cool kids” were calling me crazy and I have no idea what the coach must have been thinking. You would think that we would have gotten out asses kicked but I can tell you that we did not loose, we may not have one either but we ended the game with a tie. We played our asses off and I think those kids felt on top of the world and gave it their all.
I could keep going on and on but I think you get the point. But I think now is as good of a time as any to let you in on something that has been on my mind for a while, something I call FroNation.
So let me tell you a little bit about the FroNation. We are accepting of all people and skill levels and it is our job to pass the knowledge along. We all started out knowing nothing about photography, we had to learn. Whether we learned by trial or error or from someone taking us under their wing. I was fortunate enough to have a few photographers take me under their wing when they noticed a lost bird who fell out of the nest. (do you like that analogy, i do lol) WE HELP OTHER PHOTOGRAPHERS become better. We pass the information along, we help someone who wants to learn and we do it without hesitation We don’t worry that were giving away to much information because what you have is unique and can not be duplicated. We are a community and together we are stronger. Together we will grow and together we will be apart of something, something I call FroNation!!!!